Posted December 19, 2017 by & filed under Uncategorised.

So you have found your voice……………. but have you read the instruction manual and learnt how to operate it skillfully?

Over the last few of months a phrase that has been shared frequently is “I have found my voice.”

Ok, so what does that mean?

Finding one’s voice and learning to Communicate with aloha and in pono can be two very different things.


When we learn to drive a car, we also recognise there certain road rules that need to be adhered to, to ensure we navigate safely on our journey, both for ourselves and others. Whilst our vehicle may be capable of driving at warp speed, doing that constantly is dangerous. We learn that sometimes we need to put our foot on the brake, to slow down or even stop . To look around with awareness.

When I buy a new car, I ask the expert in the car yard to show me all the gadgets as to ‘how to’. I then do my due diligence and read the manual to learn as much as I can about all the aspects of this new vehicle. It’s my responsibility to then drive this vehicle in a pono fashion.


Remembering the basic spiritual law of You Create Your Own Reality by words, thoughts and the stories you tell yourself, which also means you create your Perception of Reality.


Finding your voice and utilising this powerful tool probably should come with a warning- Handle With Care.

We have a kuleana (responsibility) to use that voice with aloha and pono.

Those of you who know me, know that I choose my words vey mindfully and with care.


IMG_3519The Hawaiian ‘olelo no’eau of :   I ka ‘ōlelo no ke ola, I ka ‘ōlelo nō ka make –  In the language is life. In the language is death.  Words can heal ,words can destroy,  is understood to pertain to the words we verbalise and send out to the universe and others,  as well as those we speak to ourselves.

Is the purpose of you speaking and sharing your thoughts and feelings to simply blame, point the finger and  vent or is it  being accountable and communicating.  Communication is a skill that takes practice.

(Practice – Just like my currant endeavour to master ukulele!)


So, who is doing the  driving ???

Is it the ego which likes to talk about needs, wants, insecurities, anxieties and stresses. The part that often  thinks of the worst possible and pilikia scenario and be quick to judge and discriminate. The ego voice which always likes to be right, hates being questioned, is full of ‘oh but’s’, many excuses and loves to feel victimised?

Or is it the Higher Self and Spirit ?

An awakened voice speaks with ethics and integrity, however it also Listens and Hears.

As you speak with ethics and integrity, the depth of integrity in which you can listen and hear also expands.

Knowledge is knowing what to say, wisdom is knowing whether or not to say it.

Many times the pono course is take a step back, become the observer and hold your own counsel.


We speak in Hawaiian of our Bowl of Light, of releasing those stones that have been diminishing our light. This means doing the hana of self-reflection, accountability and choices, then removing and releasing those stones.

Hurling those stones at someone else in blame however, is neither pono nor effective.

Remember the spiritual laws of what we send out comes back 10fold ( and some!)


Morrnah Simeona – highly respected Hawaiian kupuna , kumu and ho’oponopono practitioner has been quoted :

‘Look to yourself if you’re looking to find the cause of your problems.’

When we understand this, we cannot be in the pilikia of blaming others for our stones.


On a side note here – nor is communicating your pilikia perception through social media.


Twice in the last week Lomilomi clients have shared that after I had left the room and they opened their eyes, they had been sure that they had been facing the other way and were a little disoriented for a moment. In both cases they understood that the  message was to look at things from a different perspective, change your perception.


This piece from the book  Managing With Aloha by Rosa Say,

articulates  so adeptly many of the important aspects of communicating in ALOHA and PONO


I trust you will find it a useful addition to your toolkit for driving that vehicle of your voice in Aloha and Pono.

     Ua ola loko I ke aloha –  he’ealiika la’I, he ha ku’ulani na

         Life is an echo, what you give out comes back

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